All these years, I have been trying so hard to train myself to find silver linings in all the situations, to always see the bigger picture. One of them in this pandemic, I believe, is that it has slowed down our pace so much that there is now time to sit with ourselves and contemplate. I mean, honestly, how much Netflix and chill can one do. Today I opened my LinkedIn account after months, and most of it was filled with my connections’ posts of completing different courses and certifications. The same thing happens on Facebook. Every time I open the app, there is at least one post of someone announcing about their marriage. All this often makes me think – “What have you achieved these past few months girl? You seem to be really lagging.”
Well, to be truthful, it does make me feel inferior sometimes. I have always been that person who needs affirmation from others to feel good about myself. So naturally to feel better, I instinctively grab my phone and start scrolling through all the motivational, feel good quotes. It is calming and to some extent, disturbing as well. The fact that there is someone else going through the same phase as I am calms me! Somehow this feels appalling. When did I become this person? This isn’t me, I was never like this. But maybe this was a side of me I never paid attention to. It is only when we focus on ourselves that we start to know us better. This pandemic has raised our anxiety to an alarming level, true. But if we choose to see the silver lining, it has also given us a chance to know ourselves. This leisurely pace of everyday life has given us a chance to be by ourselves.
I have now started paying a little more attention to the inner me, the way I react to things, the way I think. I figured it was now time to improve, to work on turning negative qualities to positive and to enhance the good ones. I mean, even if I haven’t learned anything new all these months, or achieved anything spectacular, working towards improving my inherent qualities is also not so bad. Making absolutely no attempts to sound modest, I feel that getting to know myself is proving to be a real privilege. Now I understand why they always say that most of the things you try to look for in others are already within you, it is just a matter of getting in tune with your true self. I never paid heed to the universal formula of practicing self-love before anything else, but I get it now. It really is one of the simplest to understand, but tough to implement equations – “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”
To sum it all up, we need to consider how fast we are really moving, when it seems like we are not moving at all. Because sometimes even small steps in the right direction can turn out to be the biggest step. And frankly speaking, what’s the hurry! Judging by the current statistics, it looks like the world is not going to change its sluggish pace anytime soon. So, let us all grab these little silver linings and do whatever works for us, to make a breakthrough for us.
“We are the silver lining in any and every dark cloud we could ever find. There is no need to go looking for the light when you bring it with you.” – Tyler Knott Gregson